I have a friend who is struggling to find her way in her weight loss journey. Several days ago she sent me a note expressing her frustration and asked for help. She told of asking for help in her meeting and not finding what she needed. She told of setting small goals, five pounds at a time, and falling short. She told of "blowing it" even after a successful day. I read the note and thought about how to respond. I wondered how I could best help her find her way. I understood! After some deliberation I sent her a note back and asked her to answer two questions for me: Why do you want to lose weight? and Who are you losing the weight for? I haven't heard from her. I am hoping she is still considering her answers and just hasn't responded. I hope she does not feel that I too abandoned her. I also hope she understands the importance of answering these questions for herself even if she chooses not to share her answers with me.
I can say with absolute certainty her weight loss (any ones weight loss) effort will ONLY be successful if your answer to those two questions is anything other than totally selfish. To win the battle of weight loss you must want to lose weight for you and you alone. Your reasons must be "self" related; I want to lose this weight because I want to be alive to see my children grow up and have children. I want to be able to fly in an airplane and not need a seat extender. I want to shop in the regular sizes in a regular store! I WANT.. This thinking will work!
Once you have your answers your journey will begin with renewed strength. Small goals will become easier to reach and maintain. You will find as each goal is reached and you reflect on why you are working so hard it will become easier to reach your next goal and the next until one day you are exactly where you want to be. There will still be struggles and days where you "blow it" but they will become smaller and more manageable and there will be fewer. Your recovery from those days will be quick because you will have a clear understanding of who and why you are working so hard. You will win the battle. So friend I will say to you now and the next day and the next, "EVERYTHING you need is already inside of you" dig deep. I am here beside you ready to catch you when you stumble and cheer for you as you succeed. You are worth the effort!